We practice anything to the limits of our own development. The same holds true for relationships. We may be skilled in some areas and less so in others. If our skill set does not match up well with the problem area, we are left to do the best we can with what we have. Therefore couples rely on whatever skills each partner can bring to the table. Add in the need for privacy, a Do It Yourself work ethic and couples can remain stuck for years. In this sense conflict can be seen as growth trying happen. New skills can diversify your toolbox and help shift you out of the dance that you and your partner have fallen into. Couples with increased skills and self-awareness usually see a reduction in frequency, intensity and duration of their disconnection.

I welcome any questions you may have and offer a free phone consultation. If I can help you or someone you know please contact me at or (518) 862-1974, Ext. 5.

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