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David Pettie, ACSW, LCSW
Relationship & Marital Counseling
518-862-1974 ext 5
dpettie77@gmailcom

A better relationship with your partner.
A better relationship with yourself.



Where Are You Now?

  • Stuck in day-to-day routine, relating less like a couple and more like coworkers?
  • Longing to put the passion and intimacy back into your relationship?

  • Going through a crisis or transition that is putting more stress on your relationship than ever before?


Opportunities in Disguise

  • Even if you are feeling desperate right now, this may be exactly where you are meant be in order to move your relationship from gridlock to growth.


  • Most couples experience difficult times in their relationship. This is normal and one of the growth opportunities that long-term relationships provide.

  • When partners navigate these challenges with commitment and skill they can use the challenges in their relationship to develop themselves as individuals as well.

  • I help partners bring their best self to the relationship.

How I Work:

While many therapists offer the neutrality of traditional couples therapy, I will step in to correct unhelpful behaviors and suggest skills to replace them with that you can practice between sessions. I believe in shorter-term treatment utilizing longer two hour sessions weeks apart. We can modify this according to urgency and availability. Our first meeting lasts 90 minutes for individuals and two hours for couples. By the end of the first meeting we will identify the essential problem or unique dance that is keeping you stuck as a couple and discuss the steps that will help shift your pattern.

Couples work can help partners:

  • Establish emotional and sexual intimacy
  • Get through a crisis such as infidelity or addiction
  • Learn how your personal history impacts your relationship.
  • Learn how to reduce the emotionally charged responses that come from old scripts.
  • Create more joy and aliveness

Some of the Topics Couples Seek Guidance On

  • Sensitive issues related to children, in-laws, finances and sex
  • Balancing work and family life
  • High and low desire differences
  • Reuniting after an affair
  • Communicating effectively through lifestyle transitions
  • Ending a relationship with honor and dignity.


Other Specialties include:



Background

I have 33 years experience as a mental health practitioner, supervisor, and trainer with an emphasis on the deep study of relationships. I have been an adjunct faculty member at SUNY Albany for 15 years teaching clinical practice to graduate students and clinical supervision to professional leaders. My work with couples and individuals follows the approach of Terrence Real (Relational Life Institute in Cambridge, MA), Pia Mellody (The Meadows in Arizona), and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). I am a Certified Relational Life Therapist.

I welcome any questions you may have and offer a free phone consultation. If I can help you or someone you know please contact me at dpettie77@gmail.com or (518) 862-1974, Ext. 5.


Resources

Links:
www.terryreal.com
www.piamellody.com
www.passionatemarriage.com
www.themeadows.com
www.traumahealing.com
www.healingtraumanetwork.net

Readings:
How Can I Get through to You? Closing the Intimacy Gap between Men and Women, by Terrence Real
The New Rules of Marriage, by Terrence Real
The Intimacy Factor, by Pia Mellody
The Passionate Marriage, by David Schnarch
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, by Terrence Real
What Children Learn from their Parents Marriage, by Judith P. Siegal
Mascupathy; Understanding and Healing the Malaise of American Manhood, by Charlie Donaldson and Randy Flood
Embracing Your Demons: An Overview of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, by Russell Harris
101 Relationship Questions, by Thomas Leonard
Top 10 Tantra Tips by Steve and Lokita Carter

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